Every young person is excited at the sound of marriage. Not just marriage but the prospect of a relationship. Parents talk about it. A lot of home training is preparation for marriage life, especially for the girl child. Most teenagers are involved in relationships and have feelings for each other. The truth is that God is the creator of marriage, and He is the one who put these feelings in us humans. We all know that but, for what purpose? Surely there has to be a purpose for this. I believe God is not happy with a lot of marriage seminars and single’s forum meetings because what is usually accentuated is love, romantic love. The purpose is hardly emphasized. A result of this is the twisted viewpoint we have and the overemphasis on marriage (taking it beyond the context God intended it to be in). This teaching is aimed at looking in-depth at the cause for marriage to obtain not a family perspective, cultural perspective, social media perspective or a Hollywood perspective but a Godly one, a God-centred perspective or else this beautiful union that God created might end up being our undoing.
WHY MARRIAGE IN THE FIRST PLACE?
To know the purpose of this union, we must go to the beginning where it all started. Before we look into the scriptures, I want us to understand that there are two ways God communicates with us through the scriptures. By words spoken which we read and by observation on what was going on. That’s why Jesus will say that He does nothing except what He sees the Father do.
So, Jesus said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of his own accord, but only what he sees the Father doing. For whatever the Father does, that the Son does likewise (John 5:19).
He observed what God was doing in the accounts of scripture and He followed. God doesn’t always speak.
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” 18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man (Genesis 2:15-22).
Now we all know verse 18. It is talked about a lot in marriage and relationship seminars. Let me start by debunking some erroneous doctrines concerning this verse then bring the truth to light.
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.
Many people have said that Adam felt lonely and had need for a companion because he saw that the lion had lioness, the bull had cow, tiger had tigress etc. As logical as that sounds, it is not true. Do you really think Adam was lonely? The God of the universe used to visit Him every evening. He was in constant fellowship with the all-sufficient God. In God’s presence was fulness of joy for Adam. The bible said that at His right hand are pleasures evermore. Adam didn’t think he needed anything. He was full of the joy of the Lord. God was sufficient for him. He had something the animals didn’t have which was fellowship with God. What was a privilege for Moses was normal life for Adam. What a life He had! Let’s continue….
I will make a helper suitable for him.
One question we seem to never ask ourselves is ‘What did Adam need help with?’ Remember it says suitable helper not suitable companion. The answer lies in verse 15.
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.
What we are taught generally is that God gave Adam work before wife so ladies shouldn’t marry a man who is not working. That’s not the idea here. A man should work. I am not disputing that. What God is communicating here is that the reason for marriage is the fulfilment of Divine assignment. God had given Adam an assignment and he gave him a wife to HELP him fulfil it. This is the reason God created this union. Let’s bring it down to our day and time. God gives the man an assignment that he must finish before leaving earth then He gives the man a woman who He created to be a suitable helper for him for that assignment. Both of them fulfil the work of God for their lives and pass on into glory.
WHAT CONCLUSION CAN WE DRAW FROM THIS?
It breaks the heart of God (and mine) when He sees Christians who just want to get married without this purpose in mind. They pray and fast for marriage because someone lied to them that it is a sign of moving forward in life. Let’s be honest with ourselves, anyone who understands this won’t get involved in all these meaningless dating we see in our day and time. I shake my head when I hear Christians talking about their types. ‘He is not my type’, ‘She is not my type’, they say. Such people don’t understand divine purpose. They think God cares about their carnal preferences which they learnt from movies, music, talk shows and books made by people who don’t know God. God cares about one thing, His Kingdom and its advancement. Every Christian has apart to play in that hence marriage. For some Christians, God demands that they be celibate regardless of that, they still have a part to play in the advancement and coming of God’s kingdom. Let’s not idolize marriage rather let’s glorify God’s kingdom and His purpose. Remember, He who lives by the sword will die by the sword, the just shall live by faith, man lives by every word that comes out of the mouth of God. If you decide to live for marriage, you will die by marriage.
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